My Apology to Bisexuals

The first time I came out to my family, I told them that I’m bisexual. This was a lie. I am homosexual. Strictly into other men and only men. But “bisexual” was easier to come out as because it’s not as “gay” as being “gay” is. I know I’m not alone. It seems like a lot of homosexual men initially come out as bisexual in order to soften the blow. I know there’s a lot of circumstantial evidence to support this; but I’m too lazy to provide evidence on this blog lol. Anyway, my main point is that bc so many gay men come out as bi and then eventually gay, it seems to have created a false narrative that there are no bi men, that all queer men are gay men. In other words, you’re either “straight” or “gay.” And I know I was a victim to this falsehood for most of my life. I thought based on my solipsistic experience—as a gay man who briefly posed as a bi man—that this was the case for all other queer men. But again, the evidence suggests otherwise. My boyfriend is also gay, to be fair. But some of the guys I have previously hooked up with were bisexual, and I’ve watched as some of them happily ended up with women. And I’m happy for them. I used to think they were lying (either to themselves or to everyone else), but that’s because I was just being a stubborn gay man. So I just wanted to let you bi/pan people know that I apologize for my past arrogance as one of those arrogant gays, and I want to support the bisexual community in the future—bc until homosexual and heterosexual people help raise awareness, tolerance, and acceptance for bisexual, pansexual, and other more fluid forms of sexuality, we will never be free. The LGBTQ community needs to stick together, and this is ofc the case for trans people as well. We need to support them more (I’ll save that for later). Anyway, bi men rock; y’all are valid; and I support you. And obvs the same goes for bi/pan/etc. women—but I feel that women have collectively done a better job of accepting bi and pan women, so that’s why I primarily focused on bi men for this post. Love y’all, cuties! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️

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